Rev. Janice Carter

Wedding Celebrant and Officiant in the Seattle area

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Interview on Ashford Radio, May 15, 2012

Many of you know about the work I do with engaged couples, facilitating premarital conversations about various topics that are marriage related.  There are sixteen topics which include children, religion, sex, careers, home life, and finances.  My premarital services provide questions for both partners of the engaged couple to answer, then they share their answers with one another.  After completing two or three topics, we get together to discuss them in a nuturing environment.  The couples who have been through my classes find a lot of value in them – and enjoyable!

Problems come up at times throughout life and sometimes, you don’t want to talk to your family, friends, neighbors, or co-workers about it.  You need solid advice and someone you can trust with your problem.  To fill this need, I have launched a new service called “Three Generations of Payne”.

My mother, daughter, and I make up the three generations.  As I said during the radio interview, “I was born a Payne, my mother became a Payne, and my daughter was never a Payne.”  (A play on our last name!)  We represent three points of view, due to our different life experiences.

If you have a problem you would like some help with, we are providing the service at no charge during our introductory period.  To contact us, send an email to with your problem and the three of us will get back to you with our response.

To hear about the new service, click on the link below, for the 30 minute radio program.

If you would like to know more about the program or new service, email me at  Be sure to take advantage of our introductory period!


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‘Happy Valentine’s Day!

Today is the day for lovers everywhere.  Take time today to let that special person how much (s)he means to you.

In today’s Seattle Times newspaper, the “Ask Amy” column had the results of a survey on how to have a successful marriage.  This survey included over 1,200 people, mainly 70 years old or older, who had been married for several decades.  Listed below are the five tips they had for a “long and happy marriage.

1.  Marry someone a lot like you:  Similarity in core values in particular is the key to a happy marriage.  And forget about changing someone after marriage.

2.  Friendship is as important as romantic love.  Heart-thumping passion has to undergo a metamorphosis in lifelong relationships.  Marry someone for whom you feel deep friendship, as well as love.

3.  Don’t keep score:  Don’t take the attitude that marriage must always be a 50-50 proposition; you can’t get out exactly what you put in.

4.  Talk to each other:  Marriage to the strong, silent type can be deadly to a relationship.  Long-term married partners are talkers (at least to one another.)

5.  Don’t just commit to your partner, commit to marriage itself:  Seeing the marriage as bigger than the immediate needs of each partner helps people work together to overcome inevitable rough patches. ”

This research is from the book, “30 Lessons for Living:  Tried and True Advice From the Wisest Americans”.  Amy, thank you for publishing such wonderful advice for marriage on Valentine’s Day.