Rev. Janice Carter

Wedding Celebrant and Officiant in the Seattle area


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Radio Interview for Rev. Jan Carter

This morning I was interviewed by Elite Radio.  A transcript of the interview is included below.

What would you like to promote most about yourself and/or your business in your interview?

 I am very people-oriented.  I enjoy meeting and talking with people and am motivated by making a difference in people’s lives.  I have had a life-long interest in love and marriage and have learned a lot about relationships and marriages from my life experiences and also from my studying.  I am a romantic person and enjoy working to make a couple’s wedding a memorable occasion.  After every ceremony, guests come up to tell me how much they loved the ceremony.  They can feel that I am not doing this because it is a job, but because I really care about each couple.

I also believe it is very important for engaged couples to spend a lot of time getting to know each other, discovering each other’s hidden expectations about marriage, and exploring their compatibility in several areas of life – and not just spend all their time planning the wedding and buying the dress.

Can you tell us a little about your philosophy?

 Helping couples build a strong marriage is very important to me.

This usually starts with discussing their wedding plans and the wedding ceremony.  I work with each couple to custom write a ceremony that will be heartfelt and meaningful to them not only on their wedding day but also throughout the years to come.  I provide them with a copy of the ceremony afterwards so that they can read their vows on each anniversary or at those times that they are going through either a rough period or a period of renewed commitment to one another.

In addition, spending time during the engagement preparing for their marriage as well as for the wedding is very important.  Being the right partner is as important as finding the right partner.  My premarital courses give couples the opportunity to explore all areas of marriage and discuss their feelings and beliefs on various topics in a neutral, safe environment.  This will provide a strong foundation for their marriage and help set proper expectations about what it means to be married and minimize the surprises and areas of serious disagreement they might encounter after they get married.

The current divorce rate currently is 51%:  if couples put as much thought and effort into preparing for the marriage as they put into planning the wedding, this could be lowered.  Even with a strong love for one another, not all couples are well-suited to be good marriage partners for one another; finding this out ahead of time would save a lot of future heartache.

 How did you get started performing wedding ceremonies?

I became an ordained non-denominational minister with theUniversalLifeChurchin 2010.  Since then, I have been performing weddings, gay and lesbian (LGBT) commitment ceremonies, and renewal of vows ceremonies.  I also offer premarital courses.

What led you to become a wedding celebrant and officiant?

I have had a life long interest in love, marriage, and weddings.  When I was a senior in high school, I did extensive research on the topics and wrote a hundred page report on “Courtship, Marriage, and Divorce”.  It is interesting to go back and see not only how much has changed since then, but also how much is still very relevant.

I retired from my high tech career in 2009.  For the next phase of my working life, I wanted to work in a field that was people oriented and gave me the opportunity to make a difference in people’s lives.  My life-long interest in marriage was the perfect fit!

I spent 25 years in various positions in the corporate world, holding high-level manager and director positions in software development, telecommunications, IT, and project management for well-respected Fortune 500 companies such as Nordstrom and Hewlett-Packard.  I hold a Bachelor’s Degree in Mathematics from the University of Guam and a Masters of Business Administration degree from Golden Gate University in San Francisco.  I have traveled extensively throughout Europe, the Caribbean, and Southeast Asia for work, school, and personal vacations.

In addition, I am an accomplished performer and speaker. I have performed on stage and have done public speaking in many venues. At graduation from my MBA program, I was awarded the trophy for the best presentations during my courses.  While I lived inLos Angeles, I had a weekly radio program called “Jan’s World” where I explored a different, timely topic each week through talk, interviews, and music.  I also reviewed movies on cable TV for five years during that time.

What is the most important lesson that you have learned throughout your career or life?

That everything goes in cycles.  All relationships, whether they are marriages, sibling relationships, or friendships, have their ups and downs.  Like the ocean, everything has its ebbs and flows.   It is important to try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and see things from their perspective.  Also, remember that in most cases, the person is doing the best he or she can.   Try to understand the challenges they are facing and what is motivating them to act as they are.

What types of services do you provide?

I provide ceremonies for couples who either do not have a church they belong to or for couples who want to get married in a location other than a church.  I perform both religious and non-religious ceremonies.  I have performed ceremonies in some beautiful settings around the greater Seattle area, including Alderbrook Resort on Hood Canal and the W. W. Seymour Botanical Conservatory inTacoma.

Last year, one of my closest friends, Barbara Roser, who is an award-winning photographer with over 20 years of experience, came to me with an idea of a new type of wedding service to provide.  This service would be for the couple who might otherwise elope, but wants something more meaningful than getting married in Las Vegas or in front of a justice of the peace. More and more couples are embracing a private and personal wedding ceremony that focuses on the couple while keeping the costs affordable and the stress level low.   We created a service called SimpliDone Weddings to meet this need.  We perform the ceremony in a private, elegant garden.  The couple can choose from one of several pre-written wedding ceremonies, or they can write and bring their own.  They can also request a bridal bouquet and boutonniere, and a wedding cake and champagne for a small celebration after the ceremony. Best of all, the bride and groom can simply show up, dressed for their ceremony, with their rings, and we will provide the witnesses, or they can invite up to 12 guests.  Barbara and I are available seven days a week for both planned and spontaneous weddings.

I have recently added a new wedding package for destination weddings.  I will officiate at a wedding anywhere in the world for free.  Only my travel expenses need to be paid.  I limit my destination weddings to two per year.

In addition to the wedding services, to start the marriage off on a strong foundation, I offer compatibility questionnaires, a 4-module premarital course, and/or a 16-module premarital course.  The purpose of all three services is to give the couple a chance to concentrate on themselves as a couple, get to know each other better, and provide an impartial environment in which they can explore and discuss the many areas involved in building a life together.

What is the most significant issue facing your profession today?

The passage of same-sex marriages in all 50 states.  On February 13, 2012, Gov. Gregoire of Washington State signed landmark legislation into law, making same sex marriage legal in the state of Washington. Same-sex marriage is now legal in seven states and WashingtonD.C. Also,Washington State is the first state to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which defines marriage as between one man and one woman.

The changes inWashington’s marriage laws require a 90 day wait, so same-sex marriages will not go into effect until June 7, 2012; but if enough signatures are collected for Referendum 73, the new law will be put on hold until the November elections, pending voter approval.

To what do you attribute your success? 

 I love what I do and take a personal interest in the couples I work with.  I am also constantly studying and updating my materials and developing new services.  For example, I have been noticing the need for a ceremony for people in transition, whether it is a divorce, moving to a new location, becoming empty-nesters, or learning to live with a new disability.   I am developing a Transitions Ceremony to address this need.

What is the most rewarding aspect of your career?

I feel the best part is working with the couples and getting to know them at one of the happiest times of their lives.

 What sets you apart from others in your field?

Three things set me apart from others in my field.

First, the involvement and interest I take in each couple and getting to know them.

Second, the constant drive for improving the services I provide, whether it is the wedding ceremony, the premarital courses, or developing new services like the Transitions Ceremony.

Third, I believe couples need to concentrate on the marriage at least as much as the wedding.   They need to put as much thought, planning, and preparation into the marriage as they do the wedding.  I have known several couples who have been deeply in love and very well-suited for each other in most ways, yet would not be good marriage partners due to one or two significant areas of unsolvable differences.  Some of the most common areas of this type of incompatibility involve children, finances, sexual preferences, religion, and in-laws.

How can we find out more about Rev. Jan Carter and SimpliDone Weddings?

To contact me, please email me at jan@simplidone.com, or you may call me at 206.915.1077.

For more information about me, please visit my blog at www.simplidone.wordpress.com.  My blog contains several articles I have written and the “About” tab contains information about my services and pricing.

I am also developing a website, www.RevJanCarter, which will tell my readers about me and the services I provide.  For information on SimpliDone Weddings, please visit the website, www.SimpliDone.com.

In addition, Facebook has entries under both Janice Carter and SimpliDone Weddings.   In Twitter, look for @RevJanCarter.

At LinkedIn, look for Janice (Payne) Carter, M.B.A., Officiant.


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Press Release from Who’s Who for Rev. Jan Carter

 

                           Press Release

For Immediate Release

 

 

Rev. Jan Carter Recognized by Worldwide Who’s Who
for Excellence in Ministerial Services

 

Rev. Jan Carter provides couples with beautiful, custom wedding ceremonies

KENT,WA, February 13, 2012, Rev. Jan Carter, Wedding Celebrant and Officiant for SimpliDone Weddings, has been recognized by Worldwide Who’s Who for showing dedication, leadership and excellence in ministerial services.

Driven by a lifelong interest in weddings and marriage, Rev. Jan Carter is a warm and caring non-denominational minister who officiates at weddings, gay and lesbian (LGBT) commitment ceremonies, and renewal of vows ceremonies in the Greater Seattle area.  Each ceremony is custom-written to make it a warm, loving, and memorable occasion.  She believes the wedding ceremony should reflect the personalities, beliefs, and what is important to each couple.  Her goal is to provide her clients with a beautiful ceremony that they will always treasure.

She also serves as the wedding celebrant and officiant for SimpliDone Weddings.  “More and more couples are embracing a private and personal wedding ceremony that focuses on the couple while keeping the costs affordable and the stress level low,” Rev. Carter explains on her website, http://www.simplidone.com.  To provide this service, she has teamed up with an award-winning photographer to provide a service that includes a beautiful garden setting, the officiant, the photographer, a bridal bouquet, and a wedding cake and champagne for an intimate ceremony with up to 12 guests.  Rev. Jan is available seven days a week for both planned and spontaneous weddings.

In addition, to start the marriage off on a strong foundation, she offers compatibility questionnaires and pre-marital counseling to couples.

Rev. Carter has spent 25 years in various positions in the corporate world, primarily in telecommunications. She holds an MBA from Golden Gate University and a bachelor’s degree in Mathematics from the University of Guam.

Rev. Carter is an accomplished speaker.  While living in Los Angeles, she had a weekly radio program in Hollywood from 2004 to 2005 called “Jan’s World”.   Each week it explored a timely topic of interest, combining interviews, talk, and music.  In addition, she did movie reviews on cable TV for five years.  When she graduated with her MBA degree, she was awarded the trophy for best presentations of her graduating class.

In recognition of her achievements, Rev. Carter was recently selected to be interviewed on Elite Radio Network. She attributes her success to loving what she does and taking a personal interest in the couples she works with.  She plans to grow her business in the coming years and to add new services.

For more information about Rev. Jan Carter, visit her blog at www.simplidone.wordpress.com and click on “About” for services and pricing.  Also visit her website at www.simplidone.com.

About Worldwide Who’s Who®

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Worldwide Who’s Who membership provides individuals with a valuable third-party endorsement of their accomplishments, and gives them the tools needed to brand themselves and their businesses effectively. In addition to publishing biographies in print and electronic form, it offers an online networking platform where members can establish new professional relationships.

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‘Happy Valentine’s Day!

Today is the day for lovers everywhere.  Take time today to let that special person how much (s)he means to you.

In today’s Seattle Times newspaper, the “Ask Amy” column had the results of a survey on how to have a successful marriage.  This survey included over 1,200 people, mainly 70 years old or older, who had been married for several decades.  Listed below are the five tips they had for a “long and happy marriage.

1.  Marry someone a lot like you:  Similarity in core values in particular is the key to a happy marriage.  And forget about changing someone after marriage.

2.  Friendship is as important as romantic love.  Heart-thumping passion has to undergo a metamorphosis in lifelong relationships.  Marry someone for whom you feel deep friendship, as well as love.

3.  Don’t keep score:  Don’t take the attitude that marriage must always be a 50-50 proposition; you can’t get out exactly what you put in.

4.  Talk to each other:  Marriage to the strong, silent type can be deadly to a relationship.  Long-term married partners are talkers (at least to one another.)

5.  Don’t just commit to your partner, commit to marriage itself:  Seeing the marriage as bigger than the immediate needs of each partner helps people work together to overcome inevitable rough patches. ”

This research is from the book, “30 Lessons for Living:  Tried and True Advice From the Wisest Americans”.  Amy, thank you for publishing such wonderful advice for marriage on Valentine’s Day.


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Same-Sex Marriage Approved in Washington State!

Yesterday, Gov. Gregoire signed into law landmark legislation making same sex marriage legal in Washington. Washington is now the seventh state where it is legal for same sex couples to wed.  Also, Washington State is the first state to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which defines marriage as between one man and one woman.

The changes in Washington’s marriage laws will not go into effect until June 7th (90 day wait required). If enough signatures are collected for Referendum 73, the law will be put on hold until the November elections. This is a historic moment – let’s continue to be a leader in providing equal rights for same sex marriage!